by Christine Stapleton
My life improved when I accepted crying as a body function – like blowing your nose or peeing. I never worried that someone might think I was a wuss because I blew my nose. So, why is water coming from my eyes considered a weakness and peeing is not? I got to pondering this enigma after a major depression that followed the death of my parents – 16 months apart – and then the death of my dog 8 months later. It took a couple years after these losses for the depression to really kick in. But when it did, it kicked in hard.
What I learned in my recovery was that I hadn’t grieved properly. When sorrow smothered me, I stuffed it. When sadness came on me at work, I flung myself at a project to stop the tears. I was not going to cry – at least not in public. Of course, it’s okay to cry right after someone dies or at the funeral. But not two months or two years later.
Get a grip. Suck it up. Enough already.